This mom's purposeful journey to rediscover herself
Monday, May 17, 2010
Thanks and the Winner is...
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!!
to everyone who filled out my mom survey!
The responses have been fascinating and I thought I'd share a little nuggets of the good stuff with you!
78% said that Yes, they have felt that you have lost some of themselves since becoming a mom.
Beth explained, "I wanted to be a novel writer. I wanted to write music lyrics. I wanted to get a master's degree and then a PhD. I wanted to take long hikes and weekend getaways with my husband. I also wanted to be a mother...which seemingly pushed all of those other things to the bucket list of 'someday'."
Sandi said, "Especially since I am a stay at home mom, I feel like I gave up on my career...one I worked really hard for and loved. I'm glad that I am home with her, but I am anxious to get back to work...some day."
And, Jennifer said, "I have grown so much that some of the old me had to leave."
22% responded that No, they do not feel as if they have lost themselves since becoming a mom.
Anne explained, "I found more of myself when I became a mom. Losing my mother at 22 really put my life and idea of self off kilter...When I became a mother, my whole life fell into place. I had greater purpose and a litmus test of any decision: What would be best for my child/children."
To the question, How often, within an average week, do you feel "mom guilt"?, you answered in the following way:
38% Multiple Times a Week.
20% Multiple Times a Day
20% Approximately Once a Week
16% Approximately Once a Day
Mandy, a member of the 8% Never group explained, "I have to say that I no longer feel guilty. But I did feel guilty when the kids were younger...I felt guilty for wanting to get a babysitter on a Saturday night with my husband....I felt guilty that I couldn't attend all the parties and events due to my work schedule." And then she realized that, "beating myself up about it was not accomplishing anything positive." I love that, Mandy! I am striving to find that peace within myself every day!
I am still sorting through all the surveys and I am amazed and thrilled with everything you shared. Again, THANK YOU! If you didn't get the chance to fill out the survey, but want to (and I would be so appreciative) click here to take the survey.
And now for the winner of the book, When Did I Get Like This?, by Amy Wilson...